I’m at a time in my life that I never thought I would be: in my 40s, disabled and single after an 18-year relationship and marriage.  My confidence and self-esteem, at times, feel lower than ever.

The Background

Dating When Physically Disabled?

The Answer?

Building Confidence and Self-Esteem

Love and light

4 Comments

  1. Exciting times ahead for your youngest starting secondary school in September!

    I’m sorry your confidence and self-esteem have taken a knock after everything. I can’t say I’m surprised, just because of how much you’ve been through, but I wish you felt better than you do about yourself all of the time.

    You’re right with how illness and pain and disability change the playing field in so many ways, including social lives and relationships. I have had to pretty much rule out having a partner for the foreseeable future. It’s already been 6 years (yikes, where’t the time gone? 😂) but I have reasons for it that I don’t really talk about. That said, when I see you write about it it breaks my heart. I absolutely think there will be guys that saw “phwoar, check her out”, regardless of your health or the wheels. Own them, own your health issues and focus on your own needs. That sounds like a good plan. There are decent guys out there – I don’t know where they are, but I’ve been told they do exist – who will see you and not disability. Looking after yourself now and working on the things you’ve listed here sound great, and they’re really useful suggestions for others, myself included. While you’re busy with all of that, I imagine you might just run the future boyfriend over with your wheelchair when you least expect it 😉

    1. Thank you as ever Caz, I’m not on the lookout really, so at least there is no rush to get myself date-ready!! Lol. It is strange how your feelings change as your disability changes/progresses. I thought that living with MS for almost 30 years would make me super confident about ‘where I am’ but life changes things I guess. As I wrote about, I hope that by doing the things I listed help me to feel more confident and proud of myself.

      And yes – crazy about Ava starting secondary, it makes me feel so old!! xx

  2. Keep swimming, dear friend. I think that confidence can be something you take for granted until it’s lowered. You are beautiful! X

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